This month Beaky flushed out a great website on Safety, in particular, cyberspace safety and our abusers, a topic never far from my mind in these times of technological advances.
Next month we will be adding an article to the DS on safety. Are we ever really safe from our abusers? How can we increase our safety net? Beaky’s pick of the month addresses this issue, taking it a step further and examining cyberspace safety. Without our knowledge how safe are we from our abusers on the internet where anyone’s history is a few well aimed key strokes away. Our abusers who told us repeatedly we could never get away and who would go to great lengths to continue their predatory watch over us. Fort Refuge.com (http://www.fortrefuge.com/) discusses a whole realm of survivor issues including safety.
Topics from childhood sexual assault to spousal abuse have links to sites for the healing survivor. This website discusses the ‘how’ we survived through addictions, DID, eating disorders, and so on.
On the home page an ‘in crisis’ link is available.
The site is broken down into a forum, chat and what we think is its strength, a library.
The library touches on almost any survivor topic which when expanded has links for further information.
It was here that we found the link for cyberspace safety from our abusers.
The website gives a link to talk to a real person should you be stalked now or harassed now.
FortRefuge.com is a site for the struggling survivor trying to make sense out of a childhood few want to discuss. It is also a site for the seasoned survivor adding tidbits to our own healing process.
Beaky’s August 2010 websites on “Grief”‘
Everyone has experienced grief in one form or the other. Grief is a part of being alive and the process of passing on to our next life.
As survivors, we were led to believe that grieving, whether through tears or the expression of an emotion, such as anger, was not acceptable behavior. Punishment was our ‘reward’ if we acted in such a ‘weakened’ state.
The lesson learned very early on in our life was to stifle our natural grieving processes.
Beaky is here to break this taboo of grieving. He found numerous websites when he goggled ‘childhood abuse and grief,’ proving our theory that survivors need to grieve for the past and the present, from those who horrendously shamed us into giving up our grief. This, then, will allow us to have a future free from our abusers and their programming.
Please check out these two websites, which Beaky found most helpful in reclaiming our grief.
“Coping with Grief: Lesson Two” found at http://www.suite101.com/lesson.cfm/18897/2224/2
And
http://www.the-bright-side.org/site/thebrightside/content.php?type=1§ion_id=718&id=1221
“The Bright Side” will enable you to begin process of coming alive.
Be sure to come back at month end for our article, “Grief: Are We Really Allowed to Cry?”
Beaky’s Book Selection on Mother/Daughter Incest for July 2010
This month in keeping with our theme of incest, Beaky went searching for a website/book to review on mother/daughter incest.
We were appalled at the lack of information but more so by the pornographic websites which came up with a Google search of ‘mother daughter incest.’ It further alienates those wishing to seek help on the most hidden forms of incest.
Beaky located a book called Mother-Daughter Incest: A Guide for Helping Professionals on Amazon. The link http://www.amazon.ca/Mother-Daughter-Incest-Guide-Helping-Professionals/dp/078900917X gives an overview written by Beverly Ogilvie. Ogilvie discusses such topics of shame, boundaries, grief, sexual impaired function and parenting.
Though this book is for professionals, survivors and their support team would find this a help on their healing path.
Beaky speaks up for Many Voices! June 2010
Many Voices www.manyvoicespress.org was founded in 1989 by Lynn W. It provides newsletters, books and website chock full of healing resources such as an art gallery, books for sale, a listing of conferences and workshops, a sharing with others opportunity and an array of just plain helpful information. Beaky has found that for survivors recovering from severe physical, sexual and emotional assault the suggestions are ways to deal with survivor topics such as: Dissociation, PTSD, flashbacks, self injury or trauma.
The many crisis hotline numbers for survivors needing support 24/7 can be found on the most recent E-Newsletter – MVNEWS-Insider Edition#10. This newsletter is completely FREE to all who sign up, & comes out twice a month. You can access this particular newsletter by going to the Many Voices website at http://www.manyvoicespress.org/news.html and clicking on the issue archives. You can also sign up for the FREE E-Newsletter there.
Please turn your browser to Many Voices today and surround yourself with the love that pours from the pages.
LisaBri Activist on the DS
Beaky’s Pick of the Month For May 2010 was S.M.A.R.T.
The DS, is proactive in the fight against childhood sexual assault. As our new generation heals, we must keep in mind there are still children out there being assaulted. To heighten that awareness, join me in educating yourself and passing the word about these agencies until every last case of childhood assault is eradicated. One voice passing to another gives us double the strength to fight.
This month, Beaky highlights S.M.A.R.T (http://ritualabuse.us) , a website to help stop ritual abuse and to help those who have been ritually abused. (http://ritualabuse.us/research/did/basic-information-on-didmpd/)
This website is chock full of resources including a bimonthly newsletter, an e-mail discussion list, and lists of annual conferences.
Current articles at S.M.A.R.T. includes “Common Programs Observed in Survivors of Satanic Ritualistic Abuse,” a must read for survivors dealing with the intricacies of programming. Discussions on the Extreme Abuse survey as well as current cases of offenders round out this website.
Forensic Aspects of Dissociative Identity Disorder – Child Abuse Wiki
Extreme Abuse Surveys – Child Abuse Wiki
Child abuse wiki – ritual abuse
Recovered Memories – Child Abuse Wiki
We look forward to your comments.
As with all Beaky’s pickings, please take care while viewing any website that can be particularly triggering.